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Reclaiming Your Life After Divorce: A 90-Day Reset Plan

Woman hiking solo on a nature trail, reflecting empowerment and moving forward after divorce.
A woman hiking alone, symbolizing strength, clarity, and the fresh start that comes after divorce.

Divorce can leave you emotionally drained, mentally scattered, and unsure of your next step. Whether you initiated the process or not, the aftermath is often marked by a deep need to rebuild. If you feel like you’ve lost your footing, know this: it is absolutely possible to reclaim your life—with clarity, purpose, and peace.

As a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, Financial Analyst (CDFA®), and Real Estate Expert (CDRE), I help clients navigate not only the logistics of divorce but also the healing process afterward. That next chapter begins now, and this 90-day reset plan is your roadmap to move forward with intention.

The Importance of a Post-Divorce Reset

Divorce is more than the legal end of a marriage. It disrupts your identity, home life, finances, and even your social network. A post-divorce reset allows you to reclaim control over your emotional, physical, and financial well-being—one step at a time.

A 90-day timeframe is intentional. It’s long enough to create meaningful change, yet short enough to remain focused and motivated.

Phase 1 (Days 1–30): Ground Yourself

Rebuild Your Routine

Structure brings stability. Establish a new morning routine, even if it starts with something as simple as making your bed and stepping outside for fresh air. These micro-habits support mental clarity and emotional recovery.

Process the Grief

Divorce is a loss. Suppressing your feelings won’t make them go away. This is a time to:

  • Journal daily

  • Talk with a therapist or coach

  • Practice self-compassion

As your Divorce Coach, I work with clients to create safe emotional boundaries and move from reaction to intention.

Organize the Essentials

Clear clutter—both physical and digital. File paperwork, update passwords, and ensure your divorce agreements are stored where you can easily access them. If your case involved complex financial matters, working with a CDFA® post-divorce can help ensure that all settlements are understood and implemented correctly.

Phase 2 (Days 31–60): Reclaim Your Confidence

Revisit Your Finances

This is where many feel overwhelmed. Whether you're managing your own finances for the first time or dealing with shared accounts that need to be closed or updated, it's important to:

  • Review your credit

  • Create a new monthly budget

  • Set short-term financial goals

At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I offer guidance through post-divorce financial planning to help you understand your current position and prepare for long-term stability.

Explore Your Identity

Who are you now?

  • Reconnect with hobbies or interests you had put aside

  • Take a personality or strengths-based assessment

  • Try new experiences or social settings

This isn’t about “finding yourself”—it’s about choosing who you want to become next.

Update Your Environment

Your physical surroundings have a powerful impact on your mindset. Consider:

  • Redecorating your bedroom to reflect your taste and peace of mind

  • Moving into a new home if needed

  • Creating a clean workspace

If you're considering buying or selling property post-divorce, my role as a CDRE and Licensed Real Estate Broker gives you access to strategic guidance during this transition.

Phase 3 (Days 61–90): Build Momentum for the Future

Set New Goals

Now that you’ve stabilized, you’re ready to grow. This may include:

  • Career planning or pivoting

  • Investing or saving for retirement

  • Creating a bucket list of things you want to do solo

A Certified Divorce Coach can help you prioritize, plan, and track these goals with accountability.

Strengthen Your Support System

Evaluate the people in your life. Do they encourage your growth or keep you tethered to your past?

  • Build boundaries with toxic relationships

  • Join divorce support groups or networking communities

  • Reinvest in healthy friendships and family ties

Reflect and Recommit

Take time to journal or record the changes you've made. Celebrate the wins—big or small. This isn’t the end of the journey, but it is the moment you begin to feel in control of your future again.

Key Takeaways

  • Divorce is not just an event—it’s a transition requiring time, structure, and support

  • A 90-day reset plan helps you reclaim your emotional, financial, and physical life

  • Routine, reflection, and strategic planning can dramatically improve post-divorce outcomes

  • Professional support from a Divorce Coach, CDFA®, or CDRE accelerates progress and provides clarity

  • You don’t have to do this alone—you just have to take the next right step

You have the power to reset and rebuild. If you're ready to take control of your next chapter, I invite you to schedule a free consultation. Together, we’ll create a custom 90-day plan tailored to your goals, challenges, and future vision. www.LisasCalendar.com

Lisa McNally

Certified Divorce Coach | Certified Divorce Mediator

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®) | Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE)

Licensed Real Estate Broker (NH & ME)

Founder, Optimal Divorce Solutions


 
 
 

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© 2025 by Lisa McNally, Certified Divorce Mediator, Coach, Financial Analyst & Real Estate Expert.
Lisa McNally provides professional mediation, coaching, financial analysis, client preparation, and real estate services within her licensed and certified areas of expertise. She is not an attorney, financial advisor, tax advisor, or therapist. For matters beyond the scope of these services, please consult a licensed professional in those areas.

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