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Who Gets the House During a Divorce? Key Factors to Know

Updated: Jan 11


Who Gets the House During a Divorce? Key Factors to Know

Key Takeaways

  • Deciding who gets the house during a divorce depends on factors like ownership, financial feasibility, and the best interests of children.

  • States follow either community property or equitable distribution laws to divide assets, including real estate.

  • Options for the marital home include selling, one spouse buying out the other, or co-ownership.

  • Emotional and financial considerations play a significant role in real estate decisions during divorce.

  • A divorce mediator and real estate expert can help navigate complex decisions to achieve a fair outcome.

  • Planning ahead ensures smoother transitions and fewer conflicts over the marital home.

Understanding the Importance of the Marital Home And Who Gets the House During a Divorce

The marital home often represents one of the most valuable and emotionally significant assets in a divorce. Deciding who gets the house can be a contentious and complex process, influenced by financial, legal, and emotional factors. Understanding the key considerations and available options can help divorcing couples make informed decisions that align with their goals and priorities.

As a Certified Divorce Mediator and Divorce Real Estate Expert, I’ve helped many clients navigate these challenging decisions with clarity and confidence. This guide will outline the critical factors to consider when determining who gets the house during a divorce.

Legal Framework: Community Property vs. Equitable Distribution

The laws governing property division during a divorce vary by state. Understanding the legal framework in your state is essential to determining how the marital home will be handled.

1. Community Property States

  • In community property states, marital assets are typically divided equally between spouses.

  • The marital home’s value will be split 50/50 unless a prenuptial agreement states otherwise.

2. Equitable Distribution States

  • Most states follow equitable distribution laws, which divide assets based on fairness rather than a strict 50/50 split.

  • Factors such as income, contributions to the marriage, and custody arrangements may influence the decision.

Key Factors to Determine Who Gets the House

1. Financial Feasibility

  • Can one spouse afford the mortgage, property taxes, and maintenance costs independently?

  • Refinancing the home into one spouse’s name may be necessary to remove the other spouse from the mortgage.

2. Ownership and Equity

  • Who holds legal ownership of the property?

  • How much equity has been built up in the home, and how will it be divided?

3. Custody of Children

  • Courts often prioritize stability for children, which may result in awarding the home to the custodial parent.

  • The goal is to minimize disruption to the children’s lives, including maintaining their current schools and routines.

4. Emotional Considerations

  • The marital home often holds sentimental value, making decisions more emotionally charged.

  • While sentimental attachments are valid, practical considerations should take precedence.

Options for the Marital Home

1. Selling the Home

  • Selling the marital home and dividing the proceeds is a common solution, providing both parties with financial flexibility.

  • This option works well when neither spouse can afford to keep the home independently.

2. Buying Out the Other Spouse

  • One spouse can buy out the other’s share of the equity, allowing them to retain ownership of the home.

  • Refinancing the mortgage is often necessary to complete the buyout.

3. Co-Ownership

  • In some cases, couples choose to co-own the home temporarily, particularly if children are involved.

  • This arrangement requires clear agreements on expenses, maintenance, and a timeline for selling or transferring ownership.

How a Divorce Real Estate Expert Can Help

Navigating real estate decisions during a divorce is complex, but you don’t have to go through it alone. As both a Certified Divorce Mediator and a Divorce Real Estate Expert, I bring specialized expertise to:

  • Assess the value of the marital home and explore options for dividing it equitably.

  • Guide you through the refinancing or selling process.

  • Facilitate discussions between both parties to minimize conflict and ensure fair outcomes.

Working with a professional ensures you have the information and support needed to make decisions that align with your financial and emotional goals.

Making the Right Decision for Your Family

Deciding who gets the house during a divorce is a deeply personal and significant decision. By understanding the legal framework, evaluating financial feasibility, and prioritizing the best interests of all parties, you can achieve a resolution that supports your future.

📅 Need help navigating real estate decisions during your divorce? Schedule a Free Initial Consultation today at www.LisasCalendar.com to discuss your unique situation and explore your options.


Author: Lisa McNally, Certified Divorce Mediator, Coach, Financial Analyst, and Divorce Real Estate Expert


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© 2025 by Lisa McNally, Certified Divorce Mediator, Coach, Financial Analyst & Real Estate Expert.
Lisa McNally provides professional mediation, coaching, financial analysis, client preparation, and real estate services within her licensed and certified areas of expertise. She is not an attorney, financial advisor, tax advisor, or therapist. For matters beyond the scope of these services, please consult a licensed professional in those areas.

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