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Divorce Insights Blog
Expert guidance to help you navigate divorce with
clarity, confidence, and peace of mind.
Divorce, Real Estate & Financial Clarity Blog
Expert articles on divorce coaching, mediation, financial planning, and real estate decisions.
Divorce is overwhelming—but you don’t have to face it alone. Explore practical advice on mediation, financial clarity, and real estate decisions to move forward with confidence.


Why Long-Term Goals During Divorce Are Important
Key Takeaways Why is focusing on long-term goals important during divorce? It helps you make decisions that align with your future well-being and success. How can long-term thinking benefit you? It reduces impulsive decisions, promotes clarity, and provides a sense of purpose. What are examples of long-term goals to consider? Financial stability, healthy co-parenting, and personal growth. How can professionals support your long-term planning? Mediators, financial analysts

Lisa McNally
Jul 30, 20253 min read


The Biggest Financial Mistakes People Make in Divorce and How to Avoid Them
Divorce doesn't have to destroy your finances—learn how to navigate money matters with clarity and confidence. Divorce is not just a legal and emotional process—it’s also one of the most significant financial turning points in a person’s life. The decisions you make during divorce can impact your finances for years to come. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I work with clients across the U.S.—especially those in high-net-worth and gray divorce cases—to avoid common financial mis

Lisa McNally
Jul 27, 20253 min read


Coping with Divorce Grief: What Nobody Tells You
Healing after divorce is rarely linear, but support can make the process easier. Understanding Divorce Grief Divorce isn't just a legal event. It's a deeply emotional one—often just as devastating as losing a loved one to death. Yet few people talk about the silent, personal grieving process that follows the unraveling of a marriage. As a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, and Financial Analyst, I help my clients navigate this emotional terrain with clarity, grace, and streng

Lisa McNally
Jul 25, 20254 min read


When Your Child Doesn't Want to Visit the Other Parent
Supporting your child through post-divorce transitions: What to do when visitation becomes a challenge. Divorce can be especially challenging when children are involved—particularly when a child resists visiting the other parent. This situation is emotional, complex, and often misunderstood. As a Certified Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I’ve supported many parents through this tough scenario. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I

Lisa McNally
Jul 23, 20253 min read


The Benefits of Therapy During Divorce
Key Takeaways Why is therapy important during divorce? It provides a safe space to process emotions and develop coping strategies. How can therapy help? It supports emotional healing, reduces stress, and fosters personal growth. What types of therapy are available? Individual, group, and family counseling can all be beneficial. How do you find the right therapist? Look for someone experienced in divorce-related issues and aligned with your needs. Why is investing in menta

Lisa McNally
Jul 23, 20253 min read


Divorce, Real Estate, and Credit Scores: Protecting Your Financial Future
Divorcing couples often feel overwhelmed by the financial impact on their credit—especially when real estate and shared debt are involved. Divorce doesn’t just split a marriage—it often splits financial stability. And one of the most overlooked casualties in the process is your credit score. If real estate is involved, the stakes are even higher. From shared mortgages to missed payments and lingering liabilities, your credit can take a serious hit if the process isn’t handled

Lisa McNally
Jul 22, 20254 min read


How to Choose the Right Real Estate Agent When You're Divorcing
Choosing a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE) can protect your financial interests and reduce conflict during divorce. Navigating divorce is never easy, and when the marital home is involved, emotions and financial stakes can escalate quickly. One of the most important decisions you'll make during this process is selecting the right real estate agent. If you're divorcing, the wrong agent can cost you time, money, and peace of mind. The right one, however—particularly

Lisa McNally
Jul 21, 20254 min read


How to Track Down Hidden Assets During Divorce
Hidden assets can significantly impact your divorce settlement—knowing how to uncover them is critical to ensuring a fair outcome. Divorce can bring out the best in people—but it can also bring out the worst. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for one spouse to hide assets in an attempt to keep more than their fair share. Whether it’s a secret bank account, underreported income, or suspicious transfers, hidden assets can significantly impact your settlement. At Optimal Divorce

Lisa McNally
Jul 19, 20253 min read


When One Spouse Wants to Sell and the Other Doesn't: What to Do
When spouses can’t agree on selling the home during divorce, conflict can escalate—expert guidance helps you navigate forward with clarity and control. In a perfect world, divorcing couples would agree on everything—including what to do with the family home. But in reality, it's not uncommon for one spouse to want to sell the property while the other refuses. Emotions run high, financial fears surface, and the house becomes a battleground. This is especially true in high-net-

Lisa McNally
Jul 19, 20254 min read


What Is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and Do You Need One?
A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) helps you make smart, informed financial decisions before, during, and after divorce. Divorce is one of the most emotionally challenging and financially complex experiences you’ll ever face. And while most people think to hire an attorney, very few realize they may also need a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®) to protect their long-term financial future. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I serve as a CDFA for individuals and

Lisa McNally
Jul 17, 20254 min read


Why Every Divorce Journey is Unique
Key Takeaways Why shouldn’t you compare your divorce to others? Each divorce is unique, shaped by personal circumstances and dynamics. What are the risks of comparison? It can lead to unnecessary stress, unrealistic expectations, and a sense of inadequacy. How can focusing on your journey benefit you? It helps you stay present, make decisions based on your needs, and find peace. What tools can help you avoid comparison? Journaling, therapy, and setting personal goals. How

Lisa McNally
Jul 16, 20253 min read


What Happens to Your Mortgage During Divorce? A Step-by-Step Guide
Reviewing mortgage options with a trusted professional helps divorcing couples make informed decisions that protect both their finances and their future. For many divorcing couples, the home—and more specifically, the mortgage—becomes one of the most complex and misunderstood elements of the property division process. While splitting equity may seem straightforward, the mortgage adds an entirely different layer of legal and financial responsibility that can have long-term con

Lisa McNally
Jul 16, 20254 min read


Divorcing a Narcissist? Here's How to Stay Centered and Strong
Divorcing a narcissist takes strategy, strength, and support—but with the right tools, you can protect your peace and move forward powerfully. Divorcing a narcissist can feel like a psychological battlefield. What should be a legal process often becomes a drawn-out emotional war—marked by manipulation, blame-shifting, gaslighting, and power plays. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many of my clients come to Optimal Divorce Solutions emotionally drained, second-guessi

Lisa McNally
Jul 15, 20254 min read


Navigating Divorce with Teenagers: What Parents Need to Know
Teenagers experience divorce differently—knowing how to support them can protect their emotional well-being and strengthen your relationship. Divorcing with teenagers comes with its own set of challenges. Teens are old enough to understand the conflict but not always mature enough to process it in healthy ways. They're navigating school, social pressures, identity development—and now the emotional storm of a family breakup. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I work closely with di

Lisa McNally
Jul 13, 20253 min read


Dividing Real Estate Fairly: What Every Divorcing Couple Should Know
Dividing real estate during divorce can feel like tearing a life in two—having the right guidance helps protect what matters most. Real estate is often the most valuable asset a couple owns—and dividing it during divorce can be complicated, emotional, and financially risky. Whether you own a luxury property in Portsmouth, a vacation home on the Maine coast, or multiple real estate assets, making the right decisions early is essential to protecting your future. As a Certified

Lisa McNally
Jul 12, 20254 min read


Understanding the Role of Equity in Divorce Property Division
Understanding how equity is calculated—and divided—is key to protecting your financial future during divorce. When you’re going through a divorce, the home you shared isn’t just four walls and a roof—it’s one of your biggest financial assets. And within that asset lies something many people don’t fully understand: equity . Equity plays a central role in property division during divorce, but it’s also one of the most misunderstood concepts. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I help

Lisa McNally
Jul 11, 20254 min read


Divorce and Taxes: 7 Costly Mistakes to Avoid
Divorce and taxes are closely connected—avoiding these costly mistakes can save thousands and reduce post-divorce stress. Divorce is already overwhelming emotionally—but it also has serious financial consequences that can last for years, especially when it comes to taxes. Many people make critical tax mistakes during or after their divorce that result in unexpected bills, IRS audits, or lost savings. At Optimal Divorce Solutions, I work with clients to anticipate and avoid th

Lisa McNally
Jul 9, 20253 min read


The Role of Daily Routines in Navigating Divorce
Key Takeaways Why are daily routines important during divorce? They reduce stress, provide structure, and promote emotional well-being. What should a supportive routine include? Activities like exercise, journaling, connecting with loved ones, and self-care. How do routines help with emotional resilience? They create stability and provide a sense of control during uncertain times. What are the benefits of consistency? Improved focus, reduced anxiety, and a foundation for

Lisa McNally
Jul 9, 20253 min read


Divorce Professionals and Their Various Roles
A team of divorce professionals working together to support a client through every step of the divorce process. Divorce can be overwhelming, not just emotionally, but logistically and financially as well. Assembling the right team of divorce professionals can make all the difference in achieving clarity, minimizing conflict, and reaching fair outcomes. Yet many people don’t understand the distinct roles of each divorce professional, how they complement each other, or how to c

Lisa McNally
Jul 8, 20254 min read


Top 5 Divorce Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
Divorce mistakes are avoidable if you know what to look for. Divorce is never easy, but it doesn't have to be destructive. Over the years, I've worked with hundreds of clients through Optimal Divorce Solutions, guiding them to make informed, empowered decisions that protect their financial future, emotional well-being, and family stability. Unfortunately, there are a handful of mistakes I see over and over again—costly errors that can prolong the process, create unnecessary

Lisa McNally
Jul 8, 20254 min read
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